Rick McFall

If you want to quit smoking or know someone who does, you might want to read this. There are all sorts of advertisements for “stop smoking aids” and methods to quit smoking, but in my hypnotherapy practice, I have discovered things that you probably won’t read about anywhere else. Perhaps these are the secrets about smoking that will ultimately help you or that person you know who smokes actually quit. None of this information is medical advice, and I strongly encourage you to talk to your medical doctor about quitting smoking. (Obligatory Disclaimer)

Is Nicotine “Highly” addictive?

Let’s start off with one of the most controversial things I’ll be telling you. We’ve all heard that nicotine is a “highly” addictive substance. There are studies, and tests, and trials and all sorts of data to “prove” that fact. There are nicotine patches, nicotine gums, and other “nicotine replacement” therapies used to break the smoking habit. I’ve heard anecdotal information that nicotine is more addictive than heroine. I’m not a medical doctor, and I’m not a researcher, AND I’m not giving you medical advise here, BUT if the reason people had so much problem quitting smoking was because they were addicted to the nicotine, and the reason they smoked was to GET the nicotine into their systems, wouldn’t the desire for cigarettes immediately disappear as soon as they got the nicotine through another avenue?

In other words, if nicotine addiction is the culprit, once someone put on the patch, wouldn’t they just naturally NOT want cigarettes anymore? Most people I have worked with have tried the patch, and it didn’t do anything for them (or not enough). So is nicotine addictive? Sure… but so is caffeine… The point I’m getting at here is that the “nicotine addiction factor” with smoking is only a small part of the reason people continue to smoke and that nicotine is no more addictive than your morning coffee. From all the studies I have read about, it seems that right around 1 in 5 people are helped by the nicotine patch when they quit smoking. So if it’s only 1 in 5, then common sense says there must be something else going on.

What Purpose Does Smoking Serve?

“Why” someone smokes and the “Purpose” for smoking always gives two different answers. The “Why” might be because it relaxes the smoker, or it beats boredom, or some other “reason”. The “purpose”, however, is completely different. When I work with smoking clients in person, I induce a trance and we go back to the first time they smoked. I have them remember the situation, the time, all the specifics, and their mindset. What I find fascinating is that VERY close to 100% of the people who started smoking had the same purpose(s) for smoking. The purposes were 1. “To Rebel Against Their Parents”, and/or 2. “To Fit In with Their Peers”.

Let’s look at that for a moment. The purpose for smoking for most smokers is “To Rebel” and “To Fit In”. Is that a purpose that the smoker WANTS it to have? Does it work anymore? Do they still NEED to rebel and fit in? In today’s society, smokers are fitting in less and less by smoking, so it definitely doesn’t serve that purpose. As far as rebelling against their parents, that should have been over LONG ago for most of my clients, and in most cases IS over.

So… for most people who smoke, the purpose for smoking is no longer valid. It may have been valid at one time in their lives, but it isn’t anymore. To re-frame it, smoking serves no purpose. All that’s left now are the “why’s” and we can change those easily…
So If It’s not Addiction, and It Serves No Purpose, Why Do I Smoke?

There are a couple of reasons left, and I’m going to tell you all about them. The first one is that you’ve gotten into the habit of smoking. Actually, you got into the habit of performing certain “actions” with parts of your body and certain “rituals”, so to speak. Let me give you an example of something not related to smoking.

I’ve worn glasses ever since I was in my early 20’s. When I wear glasses, I don’t like them fitting too tight because they hurt my ears and the sides of my head sometimes,so I adjust them to be a little loose. With my glasses being a bit loose they slide down on my nose sometimes, and I reach up with my right hand and push on the center of the glasses over the bridge of my nose and push them back. No big deal… They slip down, I push them back up.

Well, I decided to get rid of my glasses and start wearing contact lenses, and I noticed the oddest thing. When I was agitated, or nervous, or bored, I would reach up as if to push my glasses up on my nose, even though I didn’t have glasses on anymore. The same action, but totally without purpose. It was a habitual action. A behavior. When I did it, I felt silly and could laugh at myself, and that made it quite simple to stop within a short period of time with no problem. I didn’t like contacts, by the way, and I went back to wearing glasses and am back to pushing them up on my nose again, but with purpose…

The Habit and “Ritual” of Smoking

Now let’s look a bit more at the actions of smoking. Most smokers smoke a pack a day. Some more, some less, but the majority are right around one pack a day. Each pack contains 20 cigarettes, and it takes about 15 “puffs” on a cigarette to smoke it. Each time a smoker smokes there is a ritual of sorts that is involved. He or she gets the pack, taps out a cigarette, puts it to their mouth, lights fire of some sort, puffs to get the cigarette lit, then performs a repetitive action of putting the cigarette to their lips and puffing and taking it away from their lips about 15 times, and then ends the ritual by stamping the cigarette out in some manner. This whole ritual takes 7 to 11 minutes to perform, and it is performed 20 times a day at fairly regular intervals.

Not only is he or she performing the ritual 20 times a day, he or she is also moving their hand to their mouth three HUNDRED times a day. Smoking for over 10 years means you’ve performed that action day-in, day-out over a MILLION times — literally. Now I don’t care WHAT it is, if you’ve done three hundred times a day for 10 years, when you stop doing it, it’s going to feel a bit odd, or like something is missing. I felt odd when I stopped wearing glasses and found myself performing the action of pushing up non-existent glasses on my nose. It’s the same thing going on here… It’s not the cigarettes that a smoker misses, it’s the ritual, and the action. Take away the cigarettes, and the ritual and actions have no purpose, so the smoker doesn’t do them anymore, so there is that feeling like, “there’s something I need to be doing right now”, or that something is missing, etc. That feeling gets translated by the brain into something along the lines of , “I need a cigarette”. In reality, it should be translated into, I need to perform my ritual/action.

Smokers Assign High Importance to Cigarettes

Somehow over the period of time that a person has been smoking, they began to assign extremely high importance to the cigarettes with behaviors about them. A smoker always makes sure to have cigarettes with them and that they have a “sufficient quantity” to last a while. A pack of cigarettes (and a lighter/matches) are nearly ALWAYS within easy reach if not ON the person’s body in a pocket or purse. If a smoker runs out of cigarettes, he immediately goes to a store and purchases more. If he forgets them, he either goes back to get them, or buys more right away. A smoker always tries to ensure there is a steady and ample supply of cigarettes.

The slight twist I’m going to make here isn’t that the cigarettes are so important, as is the ability to perform the “ritual” and “actions” I wrote about earlier. It’s the RITUAL that is of utmost importance, thus leading to all the actions and protections related to the “ingredients” of the ritual. That’s VERY important. It’s not so much the cigarettes themselves that are important, as it is the ritual that’s important.

Let’s look at it another way. Suppose you work at a job that’s 50 miles from your home. The way you get to work everyday is to drive your car there. You wash your car, do all the maintenance on it, and know the best route and alternate routes to get to work. So… everyday, you get up, get showered, and dressed appropriately and drive your car the 50 miles to your job. That’s your ritual — getting ready, and traveling to work. Your car is important because it’s an integral part of the ritual of getting to work. making sure there is enough gas in the car is important so that you can complete the ritual, as is maintenance and repairs on the car. The important OVERALL part here, though, is “getting to work”.

Let’s throw In a Few Changes
So what happens if your driver’s license is taken away, or your car breaks down and you can’t afford to get it fixed or get a new one? All of a sudden, you can’t get to work the way you have been for years. Regardless of how it happened, driving your car to work is now no longer an option. So now, you find another way to complete your “ritual” of going to work — because THAT is what’s important, right? It’s not HOW you perform the ritual of getting to work, it’s just important that you DO perform it. Perhaps you can take the bus, or the subway, or carpool with a co-worker. There are all sorts of ways that will get you where you need to go with relatively few differences. Sure, there will be some minor adjustments, but overall, things are the same. You still get up every morning and get showered and dressed appropriately and “travel” to work. The “travel” part is just a bit different now.Now Let’s Apply That to Smoking

Earlier we saw that nicotine isn’t all that addictive, and that smoking really doesn’t serve a purpose anymore. We also saw that it’s the ritual and the actions that seem to be important and that need to be altered in how we complete them. Now let’s change “how” we complete the ritual, so that you can give up cigarettes easily by replacing them with something else.

The ritual we are changing has a lot of ingredients, and we want to keep as many of those ingredients as we can, so that there will be as little “adjustment” as is possible., so let’s look at the ingredients. There is the repetitive arm motion of raising the hand to the mouth. There is the oral sensation and taste of the smoke. There is the need to have a constant, ample supply of the ingredients. We also want to have the changes actually be something healthy, rather than unhealthy.

Many people gain weight when they quit smoking because they substitute eating snacks or candy to satisfy the oral sensation, taste, and repetitive hand/arm movement. They keep snacks and candy around constantly in order to satisfy the ample supply part of the whole scenario. Since weight gain isn’t desired, that makes snacks a poor choice as an alteration to the ritual.

To combat the weight gain, some people try to just chew gum, but that doesn’t meet the “repetitive arm movement” part of the ritual even though it meets the others.

OK, Tell Me What Works!

The best thing I have found is so simple it blows people away. Get yourself a sports bottle (the kind with a straw sticking out the top) or one with a closeable top is even better. Keep it with you always, and keep it filled with drinking water. Assign the same importance to IT as you USED to do with cigarettes. By that I mean that: 1. You always carry it with you. 2. If you forget it, you either go back and get it or buy one at the nearest convenience store. 3. You always keep it at least half full, and make sure you refill it if it starts to run low.

It satisfies the repetitive arm movement. It satisfies the oral sensation/taste. It satisfies the constant/ample supply scenario. And everyone is always being told to drink more water to stay healthy. It’s a home run!

To Make it Even Easier To Quit - Do This

Before quitting, start to make cigarettes less important in your life. You can do that in VERY simple ways, and you’ll notice that you begin to smoke less without even trying. Here is what you can do:

1. Get the water bottle and start carrying it with you as described above (but don’t even TRY to stop smoking yet).

2. Put your cigarettes in a different place than “within reach”. Put them at least 10 steps away. The farther away you put them the better, but in “another room” is actually good. Get into the habit of doing this and your smoking will drop off a lot. It’s important to remember here that it’s OK to smoke whenever you want to at this point. You just need to go to the other room and get ONE cigarette and then leave the pack there and go smoke. If you smoke in your car, try putting the cigarettes in the trunk, and stop and get one out of the trunk whenever you want to smoke. You’re NOT quitting smoking yet. You are reducing the importance of the cigarettes in your subconscious mind’s perception. At the same time, you are giving it the water bottle in step one to transfer that importance to.

3. Count how many cigarettes you smoke each day. Get an initial count before you make any changes at all. Don’t force yourself to smoke less, just count them in whatever way you wish. Track what begins to happen when you have done steps 1 and 2 above and expect to see a rather quick drop off initially, followed by a more gradual reduction over the next few weeks or so.

4. About a week AFTER you have been successful at establishing the habit of leaving your cigarettes in another room and you only smoke when you go get one make this next change. Only smoke in one place, and do nothing else while smoking. No watching TV, no talking with other people, nothing. You stand or sit by yourself and just smoke that one cigarette.

5. If you’ve been buying cigarettes more than one pack at a time, start just buying ONE pack at a time, and only buy another pack after all the cigarettes from the current pack are gone.

Let each change that you make above settle in and become comfortable for you before you make another change. even though this will take longer for you to quit smoking, it will make it completely stress free and permanent for you. GRADUAL is the key here.

When do I Actually Get To Quit?

The answer is… When you feel ready. Once you have done all the things above, and you’ve experienced how easily you cut down dramatically with very little “adjustment” problems, you’ll find your confidence in being able to “quit completely” will be at an all time high. When you start to get that “I can really do this” feeling, set a quit date. Gradually get rid of ashtrays, and lighters so that on your quit date you’ll only have “one last ashtray and lighter” to get rid of. If you want to use the patch, make sure you have them ready to go (or the gum, or inhalers or any other aids you wish to use). You can do this more easily than you ever thought possible. Just do it the way I laid it out, and you’ll program your mind to help you with it rather than fight you on it.

Now for My Shameless (and BRIEF) Sales Pitch

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Coming very soon on our site, and hopefully lots of other places, is our latest “Law of Attraction” title.This one is a video that I am making in partnership with Knowing Entertainment Productions. We just wrapped our first full two days of production, and the “trailer” will be soon visible on our site and elsewhere on the web.

The Law of Attraction, which has been popularized so much by the movie “The Secret” is something that we can all use more of in our lives. I’ve been using it’s principles in my daily life and with my hypnotherapy clients for years. I thought it was a great idea that I get these things out to people in as big of a way as possible. Thus, the video.

What I noticed to be lacking in a lot of the “stuff” out there was a way for people to immediately and effectively, step by step, put the Law of Attraction to work for themselves. Rhetoric about it abounds everywhere I look, but the actual do “this”, “this”, and “this” is much harder to find. Our video will give you exactly that. The “How To”, that you can put into action immediately after watching. The step by step layout for manifesting changes.

It’s also worth mentioning here that the video is NOT an advertisement to buy more things or sign up for “courses”. It’s a complete, self-contained roadmap to success, wealth, love, health — whatever you decide you want in your life. It presents some old ideas, some new ideas, and some existing ideas with a new twist.

When the trailer is up on the site, we’ll let you know on here. Who knows, maybe you’ll even hear about it on, “Oprah”.

I constantly get asked about effectiveness of subliminal recordings and scientific proof, and studies and things such as that. Many people are looking for me to cite clinical studies, or data collected by the scientific method, but I don’t do that.
I know what has worked for me and for my clients. “How” it works is another story altogether. I think that the “how” is irrelevant most of the time. I don’t need to know how a TV works in order to watch it, nor do I need to fully understand the internal combustion engine to drive my car.
I got the following question emailed to me, and i thought other people would be interested in it and the answer.

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Hi Rick,

I was surfing the net about Law Of Attraction and stumbled on your site. I read some things on Subliminal messages and there is ’supposedly’ scientific proof that subliminal messages do not work.

Since you are at the heart of it… what honestly have you noticed?

Please respond..very interested.

Mike

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Hi Mike,

I think it all depends on what studies you read and how they conducted it. Years ago, (before I was in this field myself) I ordered some subliminal tapes and used them. They seemed to work, but the company was very specific that I needed to keep the playback head of the cassette player de-gaussed or the tapes would lose their effectiveness. I don’t know if it was the power of suggestion or not, but they did seem to lose effectiveness over time.

Later, I ordered some affirmations tapes from a different company and repeated the affirmations out loud and they seemed to work well, but I wasn’t always in a place where I could do that, nor was it appropriate to listen to that type of thing (in offices around other people and such).

I searched for a long time for a “happy medium”, and was determined to find something that would work that was in between. What I found out in doing all that looking was that a lot of the subliminal audio that was out there truly didn’t work, because the subliminal part was recorded at a level that was not only beneath perception, but that was impossible to even register through people’s senses at all.

I got to where I didn’t trust anything out there if I couldn’t verify that there was actually something on it. Interestingly enough, I started my current business by adapting things I was doing to help myself to helping other people. In order to get the results I wanted, I developed my own type of subliminal recordings — for my own use for various things.
I know I’ve taken a long time answering your question, but what I actually noticed was that when I used the subliminals that I made myself with a different recording technique than all the others, they worked, and they gave me the results that I wanted.
Now honestly, I don’t know if it’s the power of suggestion, the placebo effect, or what, but they always work for me. The difficulty is that anything I say about it is purely subjective, but maybe that’s the whole point. The Law of Attraction is about feelings and emotions and attitudes, so if they (the subliminal CDs) are able to affect a change in attitude (no matter how that actually happens), then I guess they are working the way they need to.

When it all boils down to the end, as long as we achieve the results that we want, do we care how it happened?

Other people report the same results with listening to my subliminals.

I hope I answered your question… sorry I got long-winded

Best Regards,
Rick McFall
United Hypnotherapy

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You may want to begin with Part One of this article if you haven’t already done so. The bottom line answer to why people are overweight is because they rarely deal with the real issue. The real “purpose” for the weight being there.

In hypnotherapy, I guide my clients to the purpose of the weight being there. Then I guide them to “healing” that particular issue. Once they do that, the weight no longer serves a purpose, and it does begin to go away all by itself. It’s just like running a race and breathing hard. Once the race is over, and there is no need for extra oxygen, a person’s breathing returns to normal all by itself. Is that magical? It all depends on your perspective I guess. A lot of people I work with look at the whole hypnotic process as being magical because it all happens so fast.

So to wrap everything up a bit here, I’d say that weight loss isn’t about weight at all. Weight loss is about personal growth and inner healing. The weight is just a symptom of something else going on in a person’s life that needs some attention.

When a smoke alarm goes off, it’s not about the annoying sound that comes out of it that’s important. It’s about what’s causing it to go off in the first place. If there is a fire, we need to put the fire out, and the smoke alarm will become silent all by itself after a while. Stop treating weight like it’s the ear piercing noise of the alarm, and go put out the fire instead. It will give you the permanent results that you’ve been looking for all along and will bring a lot more happiness into your life.

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If you’ve read Part 1 of this article, you are beginning to understand that I really don’t care “why” people are overweight because it truly doesn’t matter. A good prospect for what DOES matter though, is “What purpose is served by being overweight?” The “purpose” of the weight is a whole different story and gets us a whole different answer.

A lot of the answers to the “purpose” question are a bit shocking when we hear them, but the examples I’m giving are all real ones that came up with clients of mine. Here are a few:

“If I’m overweight, I’ll be undesirable, and if I’m undesirable I won’t get into an intimate relationship. If I don’t get into an intimate relationship I can’t get hurt. So the weight prevents me from getting hurt in a relationship.”

“I don’t deserve to be happy because I’m a bad person, and being overweight makes me unhappy. The weight serves as punishment for my being a bad person.”

“Being overweight makes me bigger so that I can be seen. People never noticed me before, so the weight serves the purpose of making me big enough that they see me now.”

“People hurt me when they get close to me, so the weight serves as a physical barrier to keep people at a distance.”

There are as many “purposes” for the weight as there are people who have a weight problem, but this gives you a slight idea of what types of things come up. Weight as punishment for something, and weight as protection “from” something are the two main underlying themes in most purposes for being overweight. Oddly enough, almost every purpose that has come to light with my clients has had some sense of logic to it.

OK… so let’s say that we found out the purpose of the weight or of being overweight. Let’s say that the purpose is to make the person undesirable so that they won’t get into a relationship where they will get hurt. Now what? We found the purpose, so does everything magically resolve itself and the weight problem goes away all by itself? Nope…

Let’s look at the purpose again. Chances are that part of the reason this person wants to lose weight in the first place is so that they CAN have an intimate, loving, caring, relationship. (Which they CAN do without losing the weight, but that’s a whole different topic). So the purpose of the weight is a purpose that they don’t want the weight to serve anymore, and THAT is important. All of a sudden, the weight has lost it’s purpose for being there. NOW is the weight going to magically disappear all by itself? Probably not.

Contined in Part 3 of this article…
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It’s a simple question, with a simple answer.

Q: Why are people overweight?

A: Because they eat to much, and don’t exercise enough.

The problem is, that’s not the question that matters, and if that question isn’t the one that matters, then the answer probably isn’t all that important either.

Working with thousands of hypnotherapy clients, I have noticed that most people are focused on the “Why” questions all the time. In fact, many of my clients were “expert” at determining the “whys” of what they did long before they ever came to see me. For instance, I would hear stories of their abuse when they were younger, and that they ate food to feel comfort. So the answer to the “why was that client overweight?” was “because she ate to feel comfort.” Overeating is often associated with all sorts of feelings that people are trying to cover up, and the emphasis has usually been on finding out “why” the person feels that way. So what happens is that people go into therapy to discover all the “whys” in their life. “Why are they frightened by authority figures?”, “Why are they nervous in crowds?”, “Why do they overeat?” and on and on… why? Why? WHY?

My answer to all of that, in all seriousness, is: “Who Cares?” Really… It’s kind of like this story:

A guy was driving down the road and got lost. When he realized he was lost, he looked for and found a landmark. Then he got his map out and found the landmark and his position on the map. He knew where he wanted to go, and he could figure out how to get there quite easily on the map, BUT instead, he spent all of his time trying to figure out how he got there in the first place. Rather than driving to his destination, he sat right there struggling and straining to find out how he got here.

The only thing that’s important to me in that story is, “Where is he now?” and “Where does he want to go?”. That’s all we need to know to help him move forward. It doesn’t matter in the least how he got there.

If we take the story a bit further, we could imagine someone coming along and seeing the guy’s frustration and offering to help. When asked what the problem is, our lost motorist replies, “I don’t know how I got here. Can you help me figure out how I got here?”

Now if it was me who chanced upon this guy, I’d politely tell him, “Yes, I can help you figure that out, but I won’t. What I will do, though, is help you get to where you want to go.”

So… does it matter “why” the guy was lost? No… He just was. Does it matter “why” someone is overweight? No… they just are.

What’s next? Read Why Are People Overweight? Part 2-Purpose…
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When working on anything in the personal growth area (especially the “Law of Attraction”), there are several powerful methods of helping focus your mind. One of the most powerful ways is to do what is called “Vision-Boarding”.

Think of a vision board as a poster/collage of what you want in you life. That keeps it fairly simple, and will aid you in making it. So here’s what you do:

First, imagine what it would “feel like” if you already had everything in life that you wanted - and I mean everything. No matter what it is that you want, imagine what it would feel like if you had it, and then hang onto that feeling.
Look through magazines, or go through some of your photographs, or search on the internet for photos/images of things that represent that feeling you want to “feel” in your life. If it’s feeling financially secure, perhaps you’ll get some pictures of piles of money, or gold, or limousines - anything that represents to you what financial security feels like. Try to stay focused on the feelings part of it, but just do the best you can, and let your mind take over if it wants to.

When you have a whole bunch of pictures either printed out, or cut out, or collected, arrange them on a poster board and put it in a spot where you will be able to look at it and meditate about it. You might want to add some words to the vision board as well (for anything you think might need a bit of emphasis).

When it’s all done and hanging where you want it, look at it… take a few deep breaths… and allow yourself to “feel” what it feels like to have all of those things on your vision board. Just pretend if you have to, but do your best to actually feel it. Do that everyday, and watch and be amazed as things from your vision board begin to magically appear in your life.

Many people I know have done this, and after a while they forget about it and go about their normal day to day activities. At some point later, though, they come back and look at their vision board and notice many of the things they put on the board have been “manifested” into their lives. It truly is amazing stuff…

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Hi, My name is Rick McFall, and I’m your host in this article about putting the principles of the movie, “The Secret” into action for you.

Many of my friends and acquaintances watched the movie “The Secret” and learned all about the “Law of Attraction”. Most loved it, and most said they were going to do everything that they had watched and read, but as I listened to them talk to me, I noticed that many of them didn’t know exactly how to do it. That’s why I decided to record a new CD – to help people utilize the Law of Attraction, the principles of the movie “The Secret” and many other things from similar teachings that I have read, heard, and use on a daily basis myself.

My take on what is necessary for the Law of Attraction to work is for you to get a handle on what it is that you WANT in your life, and what it will feel like to actually have it. You need to get that actual feeling and hang on to it. That’s the important part! Hang on to that FEELING, and the rest of the universe will instantly spring into motion to make everything in your world congruent with that feeling.

I’m not going to belabor the point, or try to convince you of anything. I’m just going to tell you to open yourself to the feelings that you want, and then look for, and EXPECT miracles to happen. They most undoubtedly will happen….

I want to talk to you a bit about what it is that you want in your life, and I want to give you a few suggestions about how to frame that in your mind.

When I ask people directly what they want in their lives, or what they want to change, I get many answers, but there are several themes that are common to most people’s wants and desires. Money, wealth, prosperity, love, a nice house, a good job, health, a nice car, and traveling. Whatever it is that they tell me (it doesn’t matter what it is), my next question is always the same and this is very important. And here’s the question…

What if you didn’t get ANY of those things, BUT you all of a sudden were completely happy in your life… Would that be OK?

Let me repeat that…

What if you didn’t get ANY of those things, BUT you all of a sudden were completely happy in your life… Would that be OK?

The answer that a person gives me tells me a LOT about what his or her preconceived notions are about happiness and how attached they are to getting what it is that they THINK will make them happy.

Let me give you an easy example:

I work with a LOT of people in my private practice for with weight loss. I ask almost the same question of all my weight loss clients and that question is: What if, when we’re all done here, you don’t lose a single pound, BUT you are completely happy in your life. Would that be OK?

Now, let’s think about that a minute. They have come to me because they are un-happy with their weight. UNHAPPY… That’s what they are feeling…. They want to CHANGE their WEIGHT because they THINK that’s what is going to make them happy. It makes logical sense, of course, BUT what if they lose the weight and they AREN’T happy? Is THAT going to be OK?

Well, they got what they wanted, but they still need something else, so they look for that. They then convince themselves that it’s perhaps Money instead that they need to be happy. Perhaps they go out and get a fantastic job that pays them amazingly well, but they STILL aren’t happy. Now they are thin and rich, but they are still unhappy in their life? What now?

Well… I’ll tell you what now… Why don’t we just concentrate on being HAPPY in our lives, and let the rest of the stuff take care of itself. Is it wealth that creates Happiness or Happiness that creates wealth? Is it losing weight that creates happiness? Or is it Happiness that creates a natural tendency to automatically achieve and maintain a healthy body weight?

From working with a countless number of people in my hypnotherapy practice, I can tell you this… When a person puts feeling happy in life above all else, then money, cars, houses, weight loss, loving relationships, and EVERYTHING ELSE they ever wanted seems to just follow all by itself. Call it a miracle, call it the intervention of God or the Universe, or whatever you want. Call it “The Secret”, call it the “Power of the Subconscious Mind”… I don’t care… It works.

Soooo…. Set aside whatever it is that you THINK is going to make you happy. It’s OK if you get all of those things, and you might get every single one of them. Truly, you just might. I’m just suggesting that you let go of your attachment to them. Be open to whatever it is that comes your way to make you truly and completely happy and at peace with yourself in life.

Be open to attracting things you didn’t even dream of attracting that will make you happy. Allow your feelings to become a guide. Allow your feelings and emotions to set the entire universe into action to bring complete and utter happiness to you in everything that you do. Instead of concentrating on what you DON’T want… concentrate solely on the feelings you want to have.

So how do you do that? We have some recordings that will help you with that if you need them. They will relax you, take you to a safe and comfortable place in your mind, bring you to a place where you can feel that feeling that you want to be feeling all the time, and then help you maintain it more and more in your life.

By rehearsing getting into this state of feeling happy and peaceful, and by actually feeling it more and more, it will rapidly become a habit for you to feel that way all the time. And as you continue to feel that way all the time, you will begin to notice coincidences beginning to happen more and more in your life, and then you will come to see them as being synchronistic events, and then you might even begin to consider miracles in your life to become commonplace occurrences.

Law of Attraction CDs/MP3s

What is hypnosis?
Hypnosis is simply an altered state on consciousness or trance. It’s very similar to states of consciousness that you are in on a daily basis. For instance…
When you read a book and really get “into” the story… You are in an altered state of consciousness that is very similar to what we do in my office.

How do you induce that state of consciousness?

The first thing we do is to remove as many outside stimulus as possible. Things like dimming the lights so there is less visual stimulus… We have you recline in a comfortable chair in a comfortable position so that your physical awareness of your body is lessened.
We also try to control other senses such as hearing. In my office, I have my clients wear headphones so that outside noises are reduced, and I can play soft background music and nature sounds along with my voice to conduct the actual session.

What is the actual session?

A hypnosis session is like beginning to read a book. Author’s usually start out writing a story that will lead the reader right into the story until it captures their imagination and the words that he’s written then begin to unfold in the reader’s mind.
We do the same thing with hypnosis with what we call and induction. An induction is simply beginning to give the client something to follow along with, as they begin a journey inside their own mind that unfolds all by itself. We tap into the clients imagination, help them heighten it by asking questions, and then guide them through a story that comes from inside of their own minds. We make general suggestions to them to start them along the way.

What would an example be?

I use a progressive relaxation induction that has the client imagine relaxing different parts of their body. Once we get through the entire body, I ask them to imagine themselves on a beach. That’s pretty non-specific. I suggest that they are on the beach with sand and water and sky, which is on virtually every beach by definition. Then I ask them what the temperature is there, or the time of day… Or the time of year… And the picture begins to paint itself in their mind. I ask them if there are any sounds, and often the sounds of the ocean waves, or birds chirping begin to enter in also… The client begins to become aware of all of these things as their imagination gets going. At that point, we move into the meat of the session where we deal with the issue for which they made the appointment.
How we approach the issue depends on what the issue is.

Does it work?

You know? It does. And even though I do it all the time, and have seen it work with hundreds and hundreds of people, it still amazes me.

So how do you make people change?

I don’t. It’s my job as a hypnotherapist to guide the client into the altered state of consciousness, and then to continue guiding them to discover and explore their inner selves and to come to some sort of resolution all on their own. The part that amazes me is how quickly a client can get to that place inside themselves, how elegantly they can deal with the issue, and how fast the results usually are. It seems like magic sometimes.